a bride has its challenge especially if mother, dad, or a grandparent is
funding the entire wedding. The funding parent or grandparent may make all the
decisions or threaten to pull all funding.
know many brides have heard the words “then you pay for the wedding, if I am
paying it will be as I say”.
am aware these are harsh words to the bride; sometimes ending in ok I will pay
for the wedding myself. This is pride and in many instances the wedding becomes
far from your dream wedding, put your pride away, there is a solution call
Another scenario is okay and the grandparent
or parent plans the entire wedding without input from you, the bride due to
fear of funding, STOP, there is a solution again negotiation.
1. Have a mediator, a wedding planner
or close relative that is without favoritism to either the bride or the funding
parent or grandparent
2. This will take several meetings or
one long tiring meeting. Decide which area of the planning you are willing to
allow total planning by the parent/grandparent. Sometimes you may need to place
boundaries in the planning.
3. Agree verbally and place it in
writing, yes a contract this is your support so now you the bride can say “we
agreed you was to do only….”
I send love as you plan your most and best day of Happiness.